Can grief be made lighter?

On 27th May, 2015, researchers reported a robot invention that was able to learn to move in just two minutes after its limbs were damaged.. Now this professor had this to say…

“Robots will eventually provide tremendous benefits to society, especially if they can complete tasks too dangerous for humans to perform,” study author Jeff Clune of the University of Wyoming told The Post. Many roboticists hope their creations will end up digging for survivors in treacherous rubble and fighting deadly fires in man’s stead. “But robots won’t be effective in those situations if they can’t adapt and continue on after being damaged,” Clune said.

Robots of course have designers or their inventors. In this case, the designer foresaw the obvious that the invention would be prone to ‘wear and tear’ or damage and designed this robot to combat this fate…was the robot designed to break? In this case, most probably, because in order for them to test this new feature, they had to break its limbs… But is that the case too for human beings…

Firstly, if a robot has a designer, then a living, breathing, emotional not to mention the incomparable complex body organs which all function in harmony, should lack a designer? And the design cannot surely measure up to the designer, I mean creator is far far more superior to creature or created… This is not however my point of contention… Let’s get into our theme of the day..

I saved a certain quote, more than a year ago during a difficult time, and it somehow gave solace to me… Lately it has really been ringing in my head so maybe I should share it, and you may choose what to make of it. It says, “Maybe we are all designed to break to teach us how much we can take, maybe this is how the future survives the past.”

So is it so?… Did our Designer, design us for breakage?… Maybe this might have given me comfort for some reason, but now, now it beats my logic just how…. Because we are not robots.. We are actual, living, souls, with emotions.

When we go a step further to look at breaking in form of grief, the magnitude is variant on the event or even the type of affected person. Death might be the weightiest and the truth is, you never get used to it. In fact, the second or third blow might be worse than the first. Was this our Creator’s design? Did God design us thus?

We looked at this in a previous blog and saw that all He created was good. And it was sin, disobedience to His good order of things that bore all destruction that weighs us down. We were not made to break. Maybe that’s why even a small cut can be very painful. We were not created to die, maybe that’s why death is so painful.

This is why, I will still have contention with people claiming we can overcome with strength within. It cannot be so. That’s why we even need to draw from God the willingness to go to Him for help, let alone the help we need, Philippians 2:13 For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure. And praise God, because He is willing and able to help us!

With that being said, my first antidote for grief will be to go to our Designer. He knows where to fix and how to fix it. He did it once and He more than able and willing to do it again. He has done it for so many, He has done it for me, and you are not an exception. In fact He is the only antidote, the rest are just means He uses to help you.

Now the second recommendation is maybe unpopular…but because the rest have been spoken of a lot, let me speak on this. The second, is “living by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God” or leading faithful lives to the Creator. How could this possibly make grief any lighter? Allow me to focus on grief caused by death of a loved one…look:

John 6:50 This is the bread which cometh down from heaven, that a man may eat thereof, and not die.
51 I am the living bread which came down from heaven: if any man eat of this bread, he shall live for ever: and the bread that I will give is my flesh, which I will give for the life of the world.

Well Jesus is the One speaking these words (check your Bible), but how can we truly eat of Him? Well through scripture, for Jesus was the Word made flesh John 1:1-14..and in His temptation He said, man shall not live by bread alone but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God. Looking to Him, daily obtaining strength from Him to obey Him, not because of what He gives but what He’s already done(died to set us free from sin) we shall not die! And this is the eternal death we’re talking about.

So imagine if each of our loved ones would just look to Jesus, that they live by every word, we would not have to lose them forever! We would only part for a while but assured to meet again never more to part. I don’t know about you, but this makes grief lighter. We would still cry but have hope of meeting. Tears of hope! May this buoy our spirits up, to lessen each other’s grief, and not work just for our salvation but for others’ too. That none should be lost, and not just for our sake but theirs too.