We were recently told we need to have a picture of ‘your person’. This was however quite unnecessary because I’m sure most of us if not all already do, especially ladies. We’ll be having an idea of even a wedding gown as early 10.(Effects of these Cinderella cartoons partly). But of course I’m not addressing myself to a toddler. So how is your checklist dear sister…some I’m sure are as outrageous as “he must have edges and a jawline.” Anyway, I don’t mean to rain on your parade but…let’s not be petty. We need to filter needs from wants and tiny compromises have to be made..if need be…
Now speaking of compromise, we must be careful…There is one that should not under any circumstance be overlooked. I don’t mean to impose on your preferences but this is the mere minimum, if I should put it that way, or rather it is the starting point. So let’s draw the bottom line, shall we?
He’s not the one, till He’s met the Man….some of y’all already know what I’m talking about, but, hey,let’s not make assumptions… I want to draw us first to the Man. There was a man who was willing to die in your place… A man who is proclaimed by God, acknowledged by angels, adored by saints and feared by devils. He is the One through whom all things were made(John1:3)…He is the One that said, “it is not good that man should be alone, I will make him a help meet for him.” He is the first matchmaker, the first wingman…the whole idea of partnership was His. Our problem is we want the invention without the inventor, whom without the invention would never be..
Let’s take some time to look at His order..
Genesis 2
15 And the Lord God took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it.
16 And the Lord God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat:
17 but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.
18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a help meet for him.
He created Man, gave Him instructions then saw it fit to grant Him a helper. You see, God did not entrust Eve to a man who had not an experience with Him. The truth is we will always have contention with the submission mentioned in Ephesians 5:22, if we overlook this. The only way to submit to the man who wants to cleave to you, is if he himself has submitted to the Man Christ. How can we want claim the right given that, ” Husbands love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for it”, if the man does not know Christ. How can He love,a love that gives up even life, if they have not experienced the love of the cross? You see we ask to much of them if that’s the case…
Now with that being said some Christian ladies are about to stone me because some of them have been beaten with character development (if you know what I mean) by these men who profess to be followers of the man Christ. Now, profession amounts to nothing if the life has not been transformed. Take heed lest you find that they are as thorough in breaking hearts as they are on those pulpits…How then shall we know?..
Matthew 7
16 Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles?…This is pretty frank and clear..but what are the fruits?
Galatians 5
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
24 And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.
Now as I end, let me highlight this… Sanctification is not rapture..We cannot place such a standard and expect all men should have had everything worked out. Simply look in the mirror too and judge if yourself have reached that level.. However any Christian is to have conversion as a daily process, and by beholding Christ we become changed from glory to glory… Otherwise we must learn to treat good men as fallible and bad men as redeemable… Disclaimer: Dear daughter of Eve, be careful lest you make these demands on any of our brothers while yourself have not met the Man. You must also have an experience with the Man and submit to Him first before any other..
For my sisters in the PCM mistries ( preach, convert, marry)..I simply suggest you be clear whether you want a relationship or a crusade. Otherwise I know of needy mission projects you could support. (Apologies for any violence detected).
Peace be with you.









